It is an oft-heard complaint from women that their male partners do not spend enough time “warming them up,” that after they reach a certain level of comfortability in the relationship the time spent engaging in foreplay lessens, until it seems like it’s always straight to intercourse the moment the clothes are off.
But why is this? Is it because the male has less of a sense of intimacy? Does he not enjoy giving or receiving oral sex, or is he merely intimidated by the clitoris?
According to a sex researcher writing for the Indypendent, it’s none of the above:
But many men cut short foreplay because they are afraid they may lose the erection which they have been taught is necessary to enjoy sex and which would be “shameful” to lose. More men could reach much higher peaks of feeling and arousal if they did not feel anxious about how they should behave sexually.