How to rock his rocks: Discovering and exciting men’s erogenous zones John Mayer’s song Your Body is a Wonderland is an enticing story that erotically describes his exploration of his woman’s body. The tantalizing description of his sensual mapping is very arousing.
And men have to do that, right? Men have to take the time to look at, caress, and kiss every inch of his lover to fully understand where her passion points are. Women have it pretty easy though. The ABCs of erecting a penis takes a woman about five minutes and two good kisses to figure out.
But did you know there are a lot erogenous zones on a man’s body that dwell beyond his genitals? And if a woman takes her time to explore, caress, kiss, and massage these areas, her man may just find himself in deeper (and louder) passion than either of them anticipated. Let’s take an erotic journey over a man’s body to explore his erogenous zones from top to bottom.
Take it from the top Start with the
head. No, not THAT head, the other one; the one that actually has a working, thinking brain inside of it. A lot of men love a soothing scalp
massage. Start with a gentle caress and then, as his energy drives the pace, move to the slightest tug. An aggressive lover is a huge turn-on to a lot of men.
While manipulating his hair and scalp, move to the next erogenous zone, the
lips. A man’s lips are super sensitive. Kissing sends a direct conversation from the lips to the brain that prepares the body for pending action. Add some tongue and you just put him in overdrive.
Move your mouth just a bit and you can love on his
ear lobes and
neck. Both of these areas are usually neglected, so a little nibble, kiss, or lick goes a long way.
Now that his engine is revving…
Just like for a woman, men’s
nipples are often pleasure points. Lick circles around them, tickle them with your tongue, and massage them with your fingers. If well received, move on to a little suck or bring a good
vibrator in to play. A little buzz combined with a little tongue is sure to please.
While the desire may be to move directly to the penis, for more foreplay, run your tongue from the nipples down his stomach, past his thighs and directly to his
feet. After a long day, a good foot massage has a calming effect. Just as his body starts relaxing, strategically place his foot on your erogenous zones to let him know where you are venturing next.
Once both feet have been massaged and enjoyed, allow your fingers to do the walking back up his leg to his
thigh. Move his legs apart so you have more room to suck, lick, and kiss his inner thigh. Do not rush it. This erogenous exploration is just getting started!
Exploring and respecting limits Communication at this point is absolutely essential. The
perineum and
anus are very sensitive areas that can send a man on a whirlwind of passion, but some men are simply not comfortable being touched there. Ask your man, or start very slowly and STOP as soon as he has reluctance. Respect is essential.
The perineum is the line that runs from the scrotum to the anus. It is filled with thousands of anxious little nerve endings. You can physically rub it with your finger, or use a
G-spot or other vibrator and gently massage the entirety of the line. Some areas may be more sensitive than others, so watch and listen for a reaction to know when you have hit the right spot.
Bottoms up For
anal play, start with a well
lubricated finger and gently tickle the opening to the anus. If given the go ahead, you can either insert a finger or use a toy specifically designed for anal play on men. When manipulated, the prostate can give men a deeper orgasm than they have ever experienced. Do not go for full penetration immediately. This deep erogenous zone takes lots of love, soft persuasion, and lubrication.
And now for the grand finale Of course the most popular of all erogenous zones are a man’s
penis and
scrotum. The primary keys to this area are to shed the typical and try something a bit new.
The head of the penis is much more sensitive than the shaft. Begin tickling it with your tongue then slowly tease with deeper trusts, tighter squeezes, and wetter kisses. Some nibbling is ok, but always pay attention to his cues.
The scrotum, though often neglected during oral play, is just as excitable. Keep your caresses and sucks softer here, because this is a much more sensitive area.
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Don’t be afraid to add a toy or two to your penis play. The vibrations can be very arousing. Use other body parts as well. If your man has a lust for toes or breasts, incorporate them into your erogenous zone play. Just make sure that your feet are soft and nails are well manicured before having them dive in.
Whether using your mouth, hands, or a toy, eye contact is essential. Deep eye contact that screams how much you want him to be satisfied goes a long way.
When he is at his peak and ready to scream, this is the perfect time to seal the deal. Rather than just jumping into the same positions you are accustomed to, consider either taming the tiger with additional erogenous licks until he just can’t stand it, or straddle him and letting him take out some aggression on you.
Advanced erogenous play For an even more arousing evening, tie him up with the Under the
Bed Restraint System or
Twisted Love Ties so he has no choice but to lay back and enjoy the ride. Toss in some candle wax to spice it up even more. Add as much dominatrix supplies as you desire and prepare for an evening of out-of-this world lovemaking.
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