Everyone has them. Everyone daydreams about it. Rarely, however, do we talk about it, especially with the person who is most interested in it – our sexual fantasies. We all have sexual fantasies and these fantasies are one of the most exciting and healthy parts of our sex lives. So why aren’t we all talking about them more?
Many sex specialists will tell you one thing—if you have a great sex fantasy life, you will have a great sex life. They go hand in hand. When you can talk about and really get into your sexual fantasies with your partner, it strengthens your relationship unlike any other way. Many people, though, are scared or nervous to discuss their latest sexual fantasy with their partner and for this reason, they have a more stilted sexual experience.
Don’t keep your sexual fantasies locked in your head. Act out your attractions with a fantasy lover that is your current partner. When you talk about your fantasies and act it out with your partner, you can both communicate what you want to do to make you feel great. How much better is sex when you’re relaxed and really comfortable with the person you’re with!
What is a fantasy except a topic that gives you an outlet for all the crazy, wild, lustful things that you think about? It’s something that you’ve always wanted to do and when you tell your partner, you can both do it together.
Sometimes, the fantasy can’t come true, but that doesn’t mean you have to stop thinking about it and sharing it with your partner. Imagine yourself in the fantasy situation and just talking about it with your partner can make both of you incredibly hot and bothered.
So are sexual fantasies good for us? Are the good or bad for our relationships? Many people never bring up the subject of a sexual fantasy for fear of insulting or making their partner uncomfortable.
When handling correctly and talked about, sexual fantasies can be great for a relationship and very healthy for us. If your partner wants to try anal sex for the first time, for example, talking about it and shopping for a new sex toy can not only add a whole new element to your sex life, it can bring you open to more and more sexual experiences. You could be having orgasms in erotic ways you never have experienced before – and loving every minute of it thanks to talking about your sexual fantasy.
Air your dirty laundry and voice your latest sexual fantasy to your partner. Chances are, both of you could be in for a wild sexual experience (even if it’s one you share together in your mind or while dirty talking each other) in no time. Learn more ways to please your partner and what turns both of you on when you start talking about your sexual fantasies today. It could be the best thing you do for your relationship!
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